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Tossed on the waves of our emotions, we forget that we are the sea.


I have a real problem with the term “anger management”.  It implies that you have a “dragon” (anger) and the only way to get along with him (or her) is to become a dragon tamer.  The implication is that the anger will always be there, we just have to learn to “handle” it.  I have a better way.

What if we could learn a way to send that dragon packing back to his mother’s cave (or put him out to the curb for trash pickup), never to return?  Wouldn’t that be considerably more desirable than continually having to hold the little guy down when he gets rammy?

That’s why I named my Center “for Pain Relief “(not “for Pain Management”).  My work aims at being rid of a problem, not just getting better at putting up with it.

It may seem unbelievable that anger can be “gotten rid of”, but I know it for a fact... I’ve been there.  I’ll save you from the whole story, as some of the people who were involved might be reading this (I hope!), but it involved an extremely challenging situation where I needed to use EFT every day for several months to counter a viciously hostile work environment.   

As a result of this challenge, my relationship with anger has shifted totally.  Even without using EFT now, anger is no longer a problem.  The effects have become permanent.  And when I tell someone about an issue I have with them, the “angry” part of my communication is no longer there... and they actually “hear” me.  In becoming calmer, I have become more powerful..

A great example comes to mind.  I was working with a young single mom and taught her EFT for her daily  stress load.  Our session was on a Thursday and she called me the next day to rave about how well it was working for her.  She wanted her kids to learn it and I suggested she just keep practicing it openly and they would naturally become curious and maybe try it.

The following Monday, her 12-year-old son returned quite upset from school, very seriously naming a list of kids he “wanted to kill.”  After listening carefully, his mom asked him if he liked feeling that way.  “No.”  Would he like to change it?  “Yes.”  Mom proceeded to lead him through a round of EFT.  At the end, silence, the boy  shooting perplexed looks at Mom.  Mom, a bit perplexed herself, asked, “What?  What is it?”  The boy’s somewhat bewildered reply, “I can’t remember who I wanted to kill.”

Are angry thoughts and actions bothering you, getting in the way of relationships, perhaps even getting you into major trouble?  Are you ready and willing to have them “disappear”?  If so, click here.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.


For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson
“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.”

~Marcus Aurelius